Ok, everyone listen up! This is very, very important. Do I have your attention?   Ok. I have something very important to tell you. Here it is:

 

“You are a liar!”

 

Yes, I said it. Worst of all, the person you lie to the most is yourself. If you can’t be honest with yourself, who can you be honest with?

 

There is something you can do to redeem yourself. Whenever you hear these lines coming out of your mouth or in your head, tell yourself, “Ah, that’s a lie”, and then tell yourself the corresponding truths. The more you practice, the better you’ll get:

  1. I’ll do it tomorrow

Procrastination, greatest killer of hopes and dreams. There is no time like the present to move any cause forward, like in Tony Robbins’s quote “When will NOW be a good time?”

What it could really means

  • I am lazy
  • I can’t motivate myself to do it now
  • It’s more work than I am ready to take on right now
  • I’m really trying to collect more to-do tasks in my life, so in the future I can feel overwhelmed, 🙂

 

  1. I am too busy

I find a lot of people, including myself, busy doing nothing leading to nowhere. When my son wants to play, I’m too busy. When someone needs a favor, or a volunteer activity comes up, I’m too busy (catching up with ‘Scandal’).

What it could really means. You should really tell the person

  • “You are not a priority for me right now”
  • I do not want to engage in the activity / Don’t want to do that
  • Don’t want to deal with that now

 

  1. This is just the way things are

This is a lie we use when we are too afraid to change. It helps us maintain the status quo, even though we may be dissatisfied.

What it could really means

  • Let’s play it safe
  • Let’s not rock the boat
  • Let’s go with the crowd
  • Let’s give up

 

  1. That’s impossible

(FYI: Nothing is impossible). Everything seems impossible until someone does it.

What it could really means

  • I have tried it before and it didn’t work out the way I wanted
  • I can’t see how this can be done at this moment
  • I’m tired of trying to figure this out
  • I have to no faith in this anymore
  • I am giving up
  • I do not have the will and the determination to make that happen
  • I am afraid of failing

 

  1. My boss/teacher hates me

A classic case of diversion. You aren’t willing to take responsibility, so you blame someone else. Most of the time, they have nothing to do with it. Not that people don’t hate others, but why let it come between you and accomplishing your goals? I suggest you find another way.

What it could really means

  • I am not willing to take personal responsibility about everything that happens in my life.
  • I am using others as an excuse not to change.
  • I am diverting attention from the real problem, me.

 

  1. This is what I am expected to do

 

What it could really means

  • I’m doing this because I am expected to, not that I actually want to do this
  • I’m not sure what I want
  • I’m more interested in what other people think, than in how I feel

 

Underlining all of this are all our fears; fear that we are not deserving, fear that we may fail, that we are not enough. The truth is that life is not about deserving or being enough, and we will most definitely fail. So, we are all in the same boat. It’s about putting aside our fears and moving forward anyways…